We need a few good Wickeds (an attitude, not a gender designation) to represent us (i.e. a return to sanity) on the west coast. I think you’d be perfect. Why? For your sane, non-childcentric worldview. Good thing cats don’t have the parental righteousness disease; else imagine how impossible life would be trying to avoid it everyday. To quote you and your unwitting audition for West Coast Representative of Wicked StepMomstery: ” I just get so sick of the way that being a mother is taken as an unfettered license to authenticate moral panic.”

Oh, Doctor…you are so right.

I think we love you.

What stupid whining and awful logic. Having kids gives you no diamond microphone and not having kids does not take away one’s right to speak. Parents do not rule any world except for the tiny world of their own tiny tots. I am not your child and you and your child have no special status for me. You should really examine your tendency to believe that being a parent gives you special and otherwise-inaccessible knowledge or a special claim or power in a society- a power to order that a public or society be changed because of you having a child. It is not only a flawed idea, it is also a dangerous one because it leave the child incapacitated. What a terrible thing to do a child – to leave him or her without the skills to cope in the world.

But as a person in the world and a citizen who will live among your children (and who will therefore be impacted by them), I hope that they might develop an ability to deal with and live in this world rather than to internalize parental failings because these incapacitated kids grow up to be terrible and stunted adults- left without many of the skills that they needed to develop in order to be well-adjusted.

I plan to have kids and I have strong beliefs about how a child should be raised-optimally. But I would never want to hinder the child from becoming an ethical citizen by giving the child the impression that they are the center of a world or society or that they are not part of a collective society. I hope that I can instill in the child an ability to not be TOTALLY FREAKED OUT by things that she or he cannot understand. How it is that a parent cannot understand the harm that such a perspective entails continually amazes me. Your disgust at ass-circus (even one staged for an art show) is one thing. But your parental outrage is laughable and terribly sad.

Those of you without kids can’t really comment. You have no idea what you are talking about.

SF was more fun when all the straight people loathed gay people and wouldn’t be caught DEAD near the Castro. Now they’re all here with their tech jobs and smug condescension tucked into their messenger bags.

The only thing I can’t stand more than people who talk about the way SF used to be are the people who hate people who talk about the way SF used to be.